Monday, December 12, 2005

being "just friends"

A passing remark is all that's left... a gigantic step back even from a perfect friendship of the yesteryears.

I am satisfied in saying that the past months have been inordinately turbulent --- the most earthshaking moments I have ever experienced to date. But nevertheless I am grateful for those moments that have strengthened such complicated persons that we all are. Those people who constantly ask what is it all about? Now, those who are
known as "just friends," in consequence of philosophy and firm judgment.

However, as the tides finally recede, the question remains: What REALLY becomes of friendship? For example, I stepped out of Philosophy class with only that dread of attending yet another Theology class.

And then a Hello doyti! came out of nowhere...
and then there was Uy, hello! How are you?
Ok lang.
And that was it.

The past was just few months back and yet it has become such a faint memory. As a matter of fact, to me, there is no better way than this -- now that happiness and contentment are shared, although shared separately and in other people's company. But then, where will the good old friendship stand?

I used to have this belief that true and loyal friendship speaks of forever, almost as constant and unwavering as the promise of marriage. I know for a fact that I am capable of speaking about and realizing this kind of friendship, without necessarily expecting anything more. I can love a friend without conditions.

But now that I am experiencing the practical side of post-relationship friendship and post-rejection friendship, I realize I have been optimistic for so long. Sometimes, one must break away from the illusion of romanticized friendship. One has to accept that even the most perfect friendships can fade and wither away.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

haha i know who you're referring to. =P

amberniz said...

been there. definitely been there. ***big hug*** never really thought of it that way. takot ako, eh. i'd just look away, walk faster, pretend i didnt see or run and hide. too scared to face the awkward silence that comes after the "kumusta?" "ok lang,kaw?" "ok din" but ah well. sayang.

vanessa said...

no grudge naman. just reality. =) and it's ok, we don't live in a utopian world.. hehe.

Anonymous said...

"one has to accept that even the most perfect friendships can fade and wither away." -- so true.

pero keri lang naman in the end.

Anonymous said...

yes, i agree with you. we don't live in a utopian world. but always remember that utopia, even as st. thomas more envisioned it, is more of an ideal than a reflection of reality. and if only we could escape from reality through our dreams! but maybe that's what dreaming is all about. no matter how much a person has, he always dreams of something more. sometimes people dream of something more than friendship... but no amount of dreaming can alter reality. however reality isn't so bad after all. don't believe everything you hear, or see for that matter. what is essential is invisible to the eye remember? just because you don't see somebody there doens't mean he won't be there for you when you need it. understand that some people take comfort in being invisible because it affords to keep the pain away at a safe comfortable distance. but rest assured, a true friend will not hesitate to cross any path, whether of darkness or light, to help a friend in need. so cheer up! there are a lot more things out there that are more worthy of your attention and time. good luck on saving the world! your friends will always be there to support you... whether you know it or not.

vanessa said...

Thanks, I think I needed to hear that.

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